What is kink?
This is a question that I've asked many people over the last ten years – including people in fetish clubs, at munches and those who do not consider themselves to be kinky. Each person has given a different answer. From it being a willingness to explore different sexual tools or power play to people that enjoy, or need BDSM (bondage, discipline, dominance, submission and sadomasochism) above penetrative sex.
I believe that kink means whatever you want it to be and as a therapist I am happy to work on your terms with the definition that you bring. To this end I am non judgemental, open minded, empathetic and do not pathologies safe, sane and consensual BDSM play or legal fetishism. I am also not easily shocked. So whether you wish to talk about wearing a nappy, visiting a dominatrix, rape role play, caning or any other activity that comes over the kink/sex/relationship arena then I am happy to hear. Some of your fantasies may not be legal if enacted. If this troubles you then discussing these can be very helpful and keep you safe.
So if want help working out who you are, have differing preferences to your partner, have difficulty experiencing pleasure, feel you are using BDSM in an abusive way (either to yourself or others) or any of the other possible issues listed here, then talking to a therapist could help.
I believe that kink means whatever you want it to be and as a therapist I am happy to work on your terms with the definition that you bring. To this end I am non judgemental, open minded, empathetic and do not pathologies safe, sane and consensual BDSM play or legal fetishism. I am also not easily shocked. So whether you wish to talk about wearing a nappy, visiting a dominatrix, rape role play, caning or any other activity that comes over the kink/sex/relationship arena then I am happy to hear. Some of your fantasies may not be legal if enacted. If this troubles you then discussing these can be very helpful and keep you safe.
So if want help working out who you are, have differing preferences to your partner, have difficulty experiencing pleasure, feel you are using BDSM in an abusive way (either to yourself or others) or any of the other possible issues listed here, then talking to a therapist could help.
