Quite often – but by no means always – when kinksters talk to me about having a shameful, secret, degrading fetish, it involves something to do with wee or poo. Acts include being the “toilet” themselves, wishing to relieve themselves on others or maybe just watching as others relieve themselves.
In writing about this, I am hoping some people might feel less negative about their shameful secret – whether they want their passion to be normalised, they feel less lonely or are heartened by seeing the words written down. It would also be good to help those who come across these kinks to be less, “Eugh what freaks” about it all.
Indeed this fetish is made more shameful by the fact it is constantly at the butt of people’s jokes. Urban Dictionary is full of terms such as “blumpkin” which describes getting a blowjob while having a poo and “shit dildo” which refers to the art of using a poo as plug or dildo. Both these terms were introduced to me outside fetish circles in the, “you’ll never guess what I heard,” way. The idea that people would want to these acts is preposterous, gross and funny to anyone without these passions or preferences.
Of course it is possible to encounter poo in a more vanilla, accidental way: maybe during anal sex there are traces on the toy, finger or penis. To coin the phrase, shit happens. To avoid this happening, it helps to make sure you have enough fiber in your diet, evacuate you bowels and wipe thoroughly – ideally with a wet wipe – before sex. Douching can also help though you might not always have time to do this, you may not have one to hand and you may be aware that frequent douching may irritate the bowel.
If you do encounter poo during sex be sure to clean the toy or penis thoroughly – whether you are carrying on with play or not. Ideally you will accept this is part of being intimate and not an evil deed that must be laughed about down the pub or grounds for dumping.
In terms of kink play, one chap called Toilet Slave was happy to share the details of his passion with me. He describes himself as a slave with lots of experience submitting to dominant women. “Once I got used to drinking my owner’s urine I did enjoy being used as a urinal toilet,” he explains. “It then became enjoyable from the point of being used to please my owner and the fact of being humiliated in being a human toilet.
“I used to look forward to her urine as she would be drinking often and saying, ‘this is what you are due soon it was about her pleasure and feeling her power over me.’ I do not like the taste. If I had to say when does it tastes OK, it would be if Ms had been drinking a particular vodka or beer. Then it would be much easier to drink up.
“I would consider scat training under the right supervision of a female owner. But not to eat it. Maybe to have one myself and be forced to sniff and possibly forced to lick lightly. But who knows? Under the right owner and circumstances a slave can be taken anywhere.”
The idea of having limits pushed and pleasing a dominant are two reasons why people like scat and watersports. Others may include the fact that these substances have been inside someone and so any act with them can feel very intimate. This sort of play can also be very absorbing; it can consume the senses and emotions, which can be good for people who feel stressed as they can escape from the thoughts that usually dominate their minds.
But how safe are scat play and watersports? I spoke to a kinky GP who I will call Dr X as she wishes to remain anonymous because giving advice on this sort of play is sadly looking down on by the medical profession.
“The main issues on those [acts] are hygiene,” she says. “Urine is sterile so main problem would be protecting the eyes from the acidity, so good hydration would be recommended. Scat is not a great idea as loads of bacteria. You only need a very small amount ingested to cause diarrhea and vomiting. Also some pretty nasty germs in there that can cause serious illness. So good easy-to wipe-surfaces are recommended and avoid the face.”
Whatever your kink or fetish, remember to be safe, sane and consensual. And know that you are not alone.
This blog was written for iFet.com, the online fetish community